When's the right time for a medic to start a family?
Post written by Toni Robinson MA, FHEA, Final year Medical Student at Keele University. Edited by Elina Daitey, thinktank coordinator. • January 4, 2020
I'm Toni, 26 year-old medical student, wife and mum of two.
Before deciding to have my children, I searched the internet for UK medical students who had done the same, all I could find were mature students who had older children prior to medical school. The desire not to let medicine rule my life, led me to follow my heart and start a family. I believe I have a unique perspective in being pregnant during pre-clinical and clinical years, whilst still managing to achieve distinctions each year.
I had my first child at the end of second year, where attending labs and lectures during pregnancy was relatively easy as I had no clinical placements. However, I would often have to sit down due to lack of energy, and would revise at times when I felt less tired and sick. It was nice to feel baby kicks whilst sitting through lessons, like my own little secret reminder and motivation to focus. Second year exams were a struggle as the third trimester is exhausting; it took every ounce of energy to sit down and revise. Eventually, I made a last-minute decision to take a year out, to focus on being a mum. In hindsight, I am glad I did this because it was a hugely beneficial adjustment. Fortunately, my university were very flexible and although I was sad to leave my cohort, I reminded myself that I started the course alone and that this was my personal journey.
“It was nice to feel baby kicks whilst sitting through lessons, like my own little secret reminder and motivation to focus.”
With regards to family planning, I didn’t want a huge age gap, so I decided to have my second child after fourth year. This presented new and different challenges because I was now on the wards daily. This required more concentration, alongside strength to push through severe morning sickness and SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction). I was taking anti-emetics and wearing anti-sickness wrist bands daily. Despite it being a difficult second pregnancy, whilst raising my toddler, my principles in being organised, planning ahead and working little but often, saw me through my finals. Rather than taking another year out, an alternative option presented itself, the opportunity to do an intercalated masters in Medical Education. This appealed to me because there were only a handful of teaching days throughout the year. It allowed me to mostly work from home, writing essays whilst breastfeeding. On teaching days, I was even able to take my newborn to university with me which was super helpful. I had all of the typical mum issues to deal with: toddler tantrums, sleepless night, a house to run and on top of this the typical student issues: deadlines, procrastination and the dreaded dissertation. However, I survived and even enjoyed the year!
“Despite it being a difficult second pregnancy, whilst raising my toddler, my principles in being organised, planning ahead and working little but often, saw me through my finals.”
I am now in my final year of medical school with a comfortable and efficient routine. The children attend nursery during the day, in the evening we have family time and once they are in bed at 7pm, I usually do an hour of work and then relax with my husband. I often get asked how I manage to fit it all in, but my motto is “work smarter, not harder”, working efficiently can save a lot of time and mastering this early on is key to succeeding in medical school.
Tips for having a baby during medical school:
·Speak to your university in advance to see how they can support you.
·TED stockings and plenty of water to prevent fainting in theatre are a lifesaver!
·If you have a difficult pregnancy seek medical advice early on to ensure you can maximise your efforts during university.
·Be organised- i.e. make your notes regularly, keep up to date. If you leave things to the last minute and have to cram, you may not have the energy closer to exam time.
·Student finance and the NHS bursary give extra funding for parents, especially help with childcare costs, use it!
“I often get asked how I manage to fit it all in, but my motto is “work smarter, not harder”, working efficiently can save a lot of time and mastering this early on is key to succeeding in medical school.”
There is never a right time to start a family and if it is something you know you want to do; I would advise not to put it on hold for the sake of your career. It is definitely possible to do both and to be good at both. Having achieved distinctions throughout medical school, a masters and having loving, intelligent, amazing children, I feel I can now happily progress through my career just like any other doctor and continue to achieve.
Post written by Toni Robinson MA, FHEA, Final year Medical Student at Keele University.
Edited by Elina Daitey, thinktank coordinator.
Prejudice occurring in the pandemic has disproportionately impacted BAME professionals - how can we respond?
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